Domestic abuse

Help for women being abused

Domestic abuse is abuse from a current or previous partner. It doesn’t have to mean violence. Your partner may say threatening or hurtful things, or try to control how you behave. You have the right to live free from abuse.

Call 999 if you are frightened or in danger. Do not retaliate – it's not safe for you or your partner.

Help to stay safe

You need to think about looking after your physical and mental health. You can also find out more about how to protect your children.

You have choices about what to do if you live with an abusive partner. You may choose to:

  • leave home temporarily or permanently
  • stay, with the hope that your partner or ex-partner will change
  • stay, accepting that your partner or ex-partner won’t change
  • take legal action by contacting the police or using the law to protect you
  • talk to a family member, friend or organisation
  • contact us for more information about safer housing

Equally Safe

A new five year strategy for preventing and eradicating violence against women and girls has been launched.

The Scottish Borders Equally Safe strategy has used feedback from survivors, communities and partner agencies, as well as statistics, to form a long term vision for tackling gender based violence in the Scottish Borders.

The strategy aims to ensure partner agencies collaborate and work together to ensure that women and girls are equally safe at home, at work and in the community.

Financial information

Find out about advice on welfare benefits and money matters